I grant that a lot of schools teach how to break bones, and 'one punch knockouts'. I'm just saying that, when the adrenaline is pumping, and the fight is a real fight, it's very, very hard to accomplish such things. The average person can take a surprisingly hard hit and get back up, or keep on coming without falling down. I have taken hits that I thought for sure, the instant it hit me, had broken at least a rib. But even in just an aggresive sparring match, I was able to keep on going, and discovered later that I was just bruised. And I'm not special. I've seen that happen a lot.
There are places you can be hit, where, with enough power, you will be knocked out most times, one punch. It's just very difficult to hit them in a real fight. I'm not saying your school was one of these at all, Mcylyck, but I have met students from schools who don't spar, because they train for one-punch-knockouts...schools that don't teach combinations (multiple strike combos) because they teach that, if delivered properly, one punch 'will do the trick'. This is false advertising, and dangerous to the students. I never teach that any technique will 'finish' your opponent, because I don't want my students having that mindset. The opponent will ALWAYS get back up, and you had better be ready for him.
A good friend of mine was with his instructor at a bar in Madison, WI. Some guy started picking a fight with them, likely under the influence of at least one kind of drug. This guy pulled a knife and came at them. The instuctor kicked the guy square in the front of the throat...and the guy paused for a second, shook his head, and kept coming.
Anyway, confidence is a HUGE benefit of the martial arts. If you have confidence, if you know that you can handle yourself, it shows in the way you carry yourself. And people who are looking to attack someone are more likely to pick someone else in the first place. (This is why schools that teach poor martial arts and faulty techniques are so dangerous...confidence in useless abilities can get someone in serious trouble.)
And I agree about movie techniques, too. Most of that can just be thrown out the window. ANYTHING Jean Fraude Van Damme is seen doing in a movie is useless. Forget trying the stuff Seagal used to do in his old movies, unless you've been training in Aikido for fifteen years. 90% of anything performed with a jump in a movie is useless. 90% of any gun disarms shown in movies will get you dead. Ditto for knife disarms, although maybe you'll live and just be cut badly. I'm trying to remember what *good* movie fight scenes and techniques I've seen...
It's been a while, but the fight scene between Mel Gibson and Gary Busey at the end of the original Lethal Weapon I seem to remember as being pretty realistic. OH, believe it or not, the fight scene between John Cusack and Benny The Jet Urquidez in Grosse Point Blank (in the school hallway) was excellent (right up till the very end, which was at least darkly humorous). Bourne Identity fights weren't bad. And the one between Bruce Lee and Chuck Norris...can't remember the film.